My aunt Queen is 76 years old.
In her youth, she participated in the civil rights movement. She protested. She marched. She sat in. She’s got enough stories of her day that you could write a book on just her adventures in fighting discrimination and racism. My mom made sure to set her up as an idol and it worked. She’s one of the many civil rights veterans in the family, and it’s a big family.
She also was quick to slap me in the back of the head when I was young and said things like “Fuck white people, I wish we could be rid of them.”
So whenever someone says something like “saying that’s racist to white people erases all the suffering we went though,” I wish my aunt could explain to these people that she still had hoses set on her, that she still had dogs sent her way, that she still marched to DC and still sat in on more than a few rallies.
We don’t lose anything when we tell someone they’re being a racist by saying shit like “dumb cracker ass bitch,” just like we don’t lose anything when we look at someone saying “stupid towel head nigger” about the president and call them out on their racism.
We’re policing asshole people who need to be policed. You don’t leave a loud mouthed motherfucker spewing hatred out on the streets if you can. You tell them to shut the fuck up with their hatred.
You’re not supposed to idolize hate speech, you’re supposed to condemn it!
The fact there’s wide swaths of this website that doesn’t understand this is just saddening.
So no, it is not okay to say. When you kibitz about ‘only cis SCUM’ being what is meant by that phrase or how cis people shouldn’t be offended, you are wrong, incorrect, misconstrued, false, errant and misinformed.
It does literally mean ‘die cis people you are scum’ and is intended to make cis gendered people uncomfortable and fearful in return for the suffering and fear some trans people feel among other generally unkind trans people. It is a violent phrase. Says the person wielding a baseball bat:
If you wish to contend that it means anything else you have appropriated it from the person who generated it, and you are wrong. You are using it incorrectly if you don’t mean all cis people.
Furthermore, you are silencing, endangering, or ignoring non-binary people like this and this. Good job at kicking your own party in the face. Keep it up if you want nothing to change ever.
‘Die Cis Scum’ does nothing for non gender binary rights. Nothing. Nothing. Nothing. You do not curry favor by threatening the majority like this. But also no one wants to listen to you, and furthermore they really don’t like you now.
So if you think cis people need to stop whining about it, you’re wrong. You. Are. Wrong.
Feminism: the advocacy of women’s rights on the grounds of political, social, and economic equality to men.
Equality to men.
Feminism doesn’t mean “oppress men”. It means demand the same rights. It doesn’t mean:
- Females are better than males; they’re both very different. No one’s better than the other.
- It doesn’t mean you should point out to all men and say that they are all pigs, rapists, and that they all suck. No? There are good men, and bad men, just as there are a lot of good women, and bad women. Women aren’t saints, and neither are men.
- Double standards. Ex: “Guy cheats on girl and suddenly, all men are bad. All men are evil. Girl cheats on guy? He’s probably mean to her, and doesn’t provide the right emotional support, it’s probably his fault.” <— Double standards, people. There are millions of instances I could think of. And double standards is a big one. HUGE one.
I have go to the hospital, and then work, but there are a lot of other examples where feminists turn into feminazis. In fact, these feminazis who identify as feminists ruined the name of feminism in general.
I’m a feminist and I’m not looking out to oppress men. I want equal right. And Tumblr harbors a lot of extremists, so…
Fucking know the difference between being a feminist and feminazi, women. Seriously. You’re making us look bad. I swear if I hear one more “all men are bad”, I’ll throw logic out the window and get cruel. I’m sick of all the misandry.
Do you not realize that you’re making people transphobic?
You are not helping the problem that trans people go through. You’re making it worse.
Attacking someone because they are cisgender, calling them scum for it, etc, just means that you’re going to give them a bad impression of the trans community. You’re making them feel angry and uncomfortable with the trans community, because you attacked them for no reason. Now they think trans people are immature brats like you, and it actually just turned them into a transphobe when they might not have been before.
Which, now, makes my life harder. Now these newly created transphobes who you created are going to hate on me as well because they relate me to you. Now I have to put up with this shit. That’s not fair to me.
So seriously. Stop calling cis people scum because they’re born with a gender they’re comfortable identifying with. The logic you’re using against them is the same logic transphobic people used against us.
Long story short: Stop being a fucking immature brat about your trans status and grow up.
If white/cis/straight people are too privileged to know anything about how oppressive they are and what being a minority is like, and it’s not PoC/trans/lgbtq people’s job to educate them, then who are they gonna learn from?
p sure it has to be from a minority, either in person, or via their writing, or the writing of someone who has spoken to them. So this whole ‘I don’t need to educate u’ thing doesn’t hold water, as a philosophy.
If no minority clarified their issues then no majority would know better.
All of the SJWs say that you can’t even UNDERSTAND racism unless you’re a victim of racism, but my white-as-milk stepbrother has a very good understanding of racism due to growing up with me and my mom. It’s total fucking bullshit, you don’t have to be a victim in order to understand what discrimination is like, you only have to see its effects up close. When we were in Texas my brother got uninvited from some stuff because his father (my stepfather) was a “nigger lover” (my mom is Native American, not black, go Texas! yr so smrat). When I was in kindergarten, my brother used to come find me after school and ride the bus home with me so I wouldn’t get picked on. The bus driver (a white lady) let him on the bus to protect me even though it was against the rules (OMG ANOTHER WHITE PERSON WHO WASN’T EVEN IN THE FAMILY UNDERSTOOD RACISM AND ACTUALLY WAS COOL TO THE LITTLE PICKANINNY GIRL). Thank God we moved, we were only there about 9 months, so they didn’t have time to organize a cross-burning before we were gone. The coup de grace didn’t involve me, but my brother. He got paddled for messing up a Christmas carol about Jesus and we were out of there a month later. My parents took a bath on selling that house too.
Not unless one guy’s got the other in an upside-down bear hug, sweetie. Otherwise you have to stop walking to blow each other.
It’s definitely going to be weird watching all the gay people literally fucking in the streets. Just scissoring and buttfucking right there on the sidewalk, giving all that oral sex to each other up against lampposts and stuff.
Because that’s what marriage is all about. I know because I am privileged to have had the option for heterosexual unions my entire life, and that’s one of the coolest parts. The first thing I did when I put the ring on Natalie’s finger was to take her out in the middle of Cherry street and just bury my face in her knickers. It was a little weird because some other people had just gotten married and they were already fucking on top of someone’s car, and another couple from a nearby church were doing some shit with rubber toys I still don’t fully understand, but we tried our best to ignore them and focus on the very public, totally legal sex we were about to have.
The cool thing about America is that when you get married here it supersedes all indecent exposure and lewd conduct laws, and you can basically just walk into a preschool and start sucking on your husband’s dick or ejaculating all over your wife’s hair right in front of the kids, or go down on each other in the toothpaste aisle at Target.
It’s awesome, and I’m extremely happy to share that awesomeness with many fine, gay Americans thanks to the progressive attitudes of people in several key states.
See you on the sidewalks, gays! And you’d better not have any clothes on, you married sons of bitches! Live nude totally public fucking! Wooooooo!
While not all blacks wear their hair natural, and not all whites have easily tamed hair, the texture of black hair beats any curly headed non-black in a nappiness war.
Keeping that in mind, realize that the standards for what looks neat and professional in the workplace were created at a time when blacks were not largely a part of business professionals. The standards were not made with us in mind, and were largely influenced by fashion and class. A tight clip, a bun, well combed, etc. These are all status symbols as far as hair is concerned.
Now that blacks are part of the business professional world, though, they also abide by these old standards, usually by straightening their hair or wearing a weave. Black people should not have to do this to be acceptable. The assumption that hair in any other state is ‘unruly’ is inaccurate and disproportionately affects blacks to this day. Don’t get me started on the pencil test.
Imagine if this was flipped. What if the rule for classy professionalism and looking presentable was that your hair must be large and puffy and stick out from your head? What if this was because as society grew, people with smooth follicles were rare? What would smooth-follicled people do this day and age? They would have to get perms, struggle to fit that status quo because it is not natural for them, and may face more discrimination than blacks, for instance, simply because an ideal that was created without them in mind was still held as the gold standard.
Or to pose it differently (but get really out there with it) what if most people were dark skinned, and light skin was seem as being unclean and ashy? When whites entered the workforce and professional climate, even though they are naturally white, wouldn’t it be discrimination to say ‘well sorry, it’s just the way it’s always been, try to darken your skin a little or cover up all the time’.
The point I’m trying to make is that it is racially discriminatory to uphold a standard for what is ‘neat and professional’ that was never created with blacks in mind. The rules for this change place to place, but that’s the problem. I have heard too many personal stories of perfectly styled naturals facing discrimination and punishment in the workplace, or not getting hired. And many other women (and men) want to grow out their natural hair or chop off their relaxed hair to grow it out, and are afraid to, because when they get to the middle stage (a TWA) it will either have to be hidden or put back with a headband, and many employers still think that that’s not as professional as a sleek bun. But what does that have to do with anything? How does it impair that person’s ability to do work? How does it at all say that they are lazy or unclean?
The black hair industry is bloated off of our own discomfort with our hair in comparison to white beauty standards and the classism that goes along with straight, smooth hair. I refuse to accept that society’s standards for hair have nothing to do with race. At best, it’s simply prejudice and an unwillingness to include our differences as valid.
Imma need you to look them up first before claiming that you know what they mean, because Tumblr is not a good source and many of you have it wrong. You look kinda bad when you’re waving a banner you can’t read.
I really hate this argument because the words have different meanings in different fields. Those terms used in that manner are correct when speaking about institutionalized oppression from a sociological perspective. In layman’s terms or from any other perspective, that definition of those words does not apply. Just like the definitions of words like “objective” or “proof” or “power” change depending on the scientific field, and “depression” means something different to economists than it does to clinical psychologists.